In our culture, we have been socialized to think that the only acceptable form of intimacy is that of a monogamous heterosexual couple. For the most part, this relationship model has been shown to us over and over again, but this model does not work for everyone. When sexual desire decreases, some couples try to work out problems between them and other times they try a polygamous or “open” relationship. The author of the article describes his experience with his patients during therapy, ”Some of the couples I counsel explain that while their emotional commitments to each other are solid, they long to fulfill a sexual need that lies outside the desires or even capabilities of their primary partner.” The most important thing is to communicate your feelings to your partner and to be honest with each other. Often times being “normal” may not be the choice that works best for you and your partner.